Self-sabotage occurs when our logical, conscious mind is at odds with our subconscious mind which a critical inner voice in our heads persistently reminds us that we are unworthy.
Self-doubt is part of our subconsciousness. However, it is always good to try your best to be motivated because opportunities can arise from an optimistic attitude.
Here are 6 ways to stop self-sabotaging your success, starting with a keen awareness of your habits and thinking patterns that you wish to pursue in the long run.
1. Setting goals and making plans
You should set goals beyond your reach so you always have something to live for.– Ted Turner
Have you ever felt like you are moving with no clear direction? Goals are essential. Everyone relies on goals to stay focused and motivated, but we often struggle with negative behaviour patterns such as procrastinating and self-sabotage.
It is best to create a steadfast plan and set small goals to prevent yourself from losing track of your ambition, direction, and hope. Each small goal is a step forward towards the big goal. Harness your ambition by wholeheartedly committing to daily plans to achieve your aim.
2. Consistent reminders of accomplishment
We spend so much of our time running forward that we often forget to look back and see how far we’ve come. It is beneficial to keep ourselves motivated by logging down our achievements as a reminder of the small milestones we have achieved.
Your previous successes help to better yourself and accomplish your tasks’ efficiently. It also serves as a form of motivation to maintain and improve work ethics. A small encouraging note on a private journal or motivational app can give you a dose of inspiration to help boost your confidence.
3. Trust your instincts
Your heart and gut are still your best guide.– Naveen Jain
When it comes to decision making, we often seek advice from people around us. We are too afraid to take risks and make bad decisions that lead to self-sabotage. Receiving advice from people helps us to feel more reassured in our eventual choices. While some advice comes with good intentions, others may not be so positive. That is the time when you have to trust your instincts and gauge which advice is good for you.
Our instincts influence our behaviour and the choices we make. We can use our hunches to make decisions but our self-sabotage habits kick in that causes us to make bad decisions.
It’s better to believe in yourself because no one knows you better than you do. Furthermore, no matter what life throws at you, it will give you the strength and confidence to overcome challenges.
4. Daily self-reflection on self-sabotage habits
Take a step back, take a look in the mirror, and take a deep breath. Look at the bigger picture, figure out the things that cause you to self-sabotage,
As human beings, we have too many overwhelming thoughts and emotions that confuse us.
Constant self-reflection will empower you to stay focused on our goals. It gives you the space to dig deep within yourself and discover your true potential.
5. Social Interaction to avoid self-sabotage
The feeling of acceptance makes us feel validated. We are taught to believe that hiding our pain is good for us. Telling ourselves that we are inadequate, unqualified, or not brilliant enough to become successful causes a loss in confidence in ourselves.
Social interaction relieves frustration and refreshes yourself. We find comfort in confiding in our family and friends because they empathize and understand. Sharing our concerns will directly increase our self-esteem.
6. Adopt healthier habits
Most of us battle with bad habits that frequently hinder our road to success. We create problems for ourselves that interfere with the long-term goals we seek to achieve. Bad habits are hard to break, but it can change your life.
Here are 3 healthy habits that will change your perception:
Focus on personal growth
Our inner voices doubt our true abilities, undermine our desires, and fill our minds with negativity. The most effective solution is to enjoy self-improvements. When you understand the beauty of making positive changes, you will find solutions that you have been overlooking.
Embrace your failure
Failure is inevitable. There is a difference between acceptance and fear – failure without learning is just another failure. There is no instruction manual to life and you are bound to make mistakes. You might even fail at achieving these healthy habits that are being listed!
Throughout your journey of challenges and disappointment, were you able to positively develop yourself with confidence?
Most people hate the fact that failure is part of the journey to success. The only way to succeed is to learn from your failures. The determination to embrace failure and see it as a chance for personal growth will shape you into your best self.
Consistent morning routine
So what changes do you want to make? You need to constantly remind yourself every morning to stick to a routine. It won’t feel like a chore if you think it is going to set the right tone for your day. It takes only 21 days to cultivate good habits that empower you to stay focused, set better priorities, and increase productivity.
To overcome self-sabotage, it is essential to set goals for yourself, understand the reason behind why you inflict self-sabotage and monitor your behaviours closely. It helps ignite positive energy with positive behaviours. By adopting these 6 ways, you will be able to manage and restrain yourself from any negative behaviours in your life. It is time to stop self-sabotaging for good!
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